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Chapter XX: The Roaring Twenties

In high school, I took Modern History as one of my subjects. It was one of the most fascinating classes I had – my teacher was an awesome man who was cool in every sense of the word. He had almost shoulder length hair which he usually packed into a ponytail, tattoos on his arm, while also being a staunch advocate for animal rights and protecting the environment in general. A lot of the topics covered focused on America, and one of my absolute favourite periods in America were The Roaring Twenties.

The Roaring Twenties – One of the Best Periods in America

The Roaring Twenties were a time you could describe as being full of abundance. While I’m sure not everyone would have had this abundant experience, the general gist is that the twenties were amazing. We had people breaking from the norm, all sorts of new styles and lifestyles coming about, as well as a boom in the American economy. New cars and electronics, dances such as the Charleston were all the rave. There were flappers! Women who were daring and went against the norm, donning styles and hats that had been once hidden away.Β 

On Turning Twenty

As of today, I’ve been alive for two decades! It’s crazy to think about, and it’s even crazier to imagine that more decades are coming. I’m not even up to a quarter of my life span (if I live until 100). For many years, I looked at people in their twenties as absolute adults. The twenties club appeared as a club that I was so far away from joining, and yet, here I am. I’ve also realised that 20-something year olds aren’t necessarily adults yet, they’re just starting the journey. It’s crazy the way you see things when you’re a child, and when you grow up.

Artwork by Wole Olawuyi (@woleolawuyiart). Photo shot by Chioma (yhitschioma)

I feel a bit indifferent, considering I have exams starting in 3 days – with my most challenging subject being the first exam. However, I’m content. When I look back on what I’ve achieved (with a lot of terrible mistakes) I feel happy a bit. It’s not like I can go back in time and do extra, I can only hope to do better from now on.

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Lessons and Experiences

There are so many things I have learnt, so many tears that have been shed and so many things I want to learn. The twenties are a time in the life of a human being, described to be incredibly challenging and full of all sorts. While we’ve stumbled through the forest of teen years, suddenly we’re thrust into the world even farther and have to start fending for ourselves, using the knowledge we’ve gained from the past decades living with those who we’re dependent on. It’s scary, yet exciting.

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Soon, I’ll finish university, then go to law school, followed by NYSC and entering the working world. It will be such a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences, and I honestly can’t wait.Β 

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Expectations – Personal & Societal

It’s crazy because the twenties come with so many expectations. Expectations we put on ourselves, and expectations society places on us. With the twenties come the ticking time – society begins to ask, when are you going to achieve A or B? When are you going to get married? When are you going to have children? I’ve tried my best to make myself understand that placing strict times on certain things i.e. married by 25, childbearing done by 30 -can be to your detriment in the end. Thus, I’ll try and take things one at a time.

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I’ve found that I don’t have rigid plans for the future. Questions such as “where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years?”, can’t be answered easily. This is partly because I want to go with the flow, and partly because I just want to do what God created me for and nothing else. I don’t want to deviate and end up in a place I’m not meant to. Even if my relationship with God is not at it’s best, I still consider him to be an integral part of my being.


What I’m Hoping For In My Twenties

When I think of my twenties, I want to be prosperous – the twenties are a trying time. Some fluctuate between feelings of confusion, bad decisions and being broke. I want to be comfortable, I want to always have the means to care for myself. I want to care for myself in many ways – be it taking care of bills that need to be paid, down to caring for my skin (a must!) The Roaring Twenties were known for being full of prosperity especially with the boom in the American economy – I want to be prosperous financially, spiritually, mentally, personally – in all spheres of my life!Β 

Though in 1929 the Great Depression came along and scattered everything, that won’t be my case. I want the prosperity to carry on even past my twenties. I hope to meet great people and cut off those who will be like thorns in my garden of prosperity. I want to grow, I want to learn more and mould myself into becoming an individual worth looking up to. I want to let go of hurt, discover my style and look my best. I want to put all my best efforts into everything I do.


Issa Felt Letter Board

To spruce up my photo prop collection, I ordered this felt letter board from Aliexpress during the Anniversary sales in March. It’s a purchase I am highly proud of.Β It’s also the most expensive thing I’ve ever bought on Aliexpress – just imagine, the most expensiveΒ thing was a frame! I need deliverance, considering I have soo many clothingΒ items and accessories calling out to me.

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Oh well, I think it’s a worthy investment! These are very expensive (for bigger sizes) and I didn’t know how possible it would be to do a DIY, so I closed my eyes and bought it for $17.54 with FREE SHIPPING (I scoured the options to find the best for me). You can get it HERE.

What would you advice your 20 year old self? Or anybody turning 20?

A young girl trying to maneuver through life, while being an absolute weirdo with a wild imagination. I love Pinterest & Instagram and claim to love food although I barely eat.

13 Comments

  • sike gbana

    Happy birthday dear. I hope you achieve all that you want to and walk in God’s purpose for you. As a fellow colleague in the noble profession and a blogger, I can tell you it won’t be easy finding balance but once you do, it’s uphill from there. Have a lovely day 😘

  • Demilade

    Aww happy birthday Amaka! I hope your 20’s (and the rest of your life really) are prosperous years. I know what you mean, I’, 19 but I think of people in their 20’s as proper grown-ups lol. There are a lot of expectations placed on people in their 20’s and as you said it can be quite detrimental. Social media also makes everyone feel like they have to ‘make it’ by like 25 when that’s simply not the case most of the time. Having some sort of plan/framework but ultimately going with the flow is the best thing to do. If not ehn, one can go crazy.

    I actually find it nerve-wracking that people expect me to be married/have at least one child in the next ten years. I mean, obviously, it’s my life and I will do what I please but the idea that it’s expected is kind of scary. In my mind, I still see myself as a girl lol! Anyways, happy birthday again babes, hope you’re enjoying your day. xx
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    • Amaka

      Amen to prosperity! I wish nothing but the same for you too. It’s true, you can go crazy with the way life can be so unpredictable sometimes! Lol don’t let the pressure get to us o! I mean, it’s not them that will have to deal with the bad decisions – you will! They won’t have to cohabit forever with that guy you rushed to marry because you were having wedding fever – you will! They won’t be there for you when you’re overwhelmed by diapers and staying up at night taking care of the child you rushed to give birth to because ‘they’ were pressuring you – you will! I can’t let such huge decisions be affected by others – it’s going to be my consequences to deal with! Lmao to seeing yourself as a girl – do we ever announce that we’re women, or do others announce it for us?

      • Demilade

        I know right?! Very well said, babes.Those people pressuring you will be nowhere to be found. That’s why it’s just better to live your life on your own terms. People say all sorts but at the end of the day, it’s YOUR life. LMAO, fair point. Nobody ever really announces that tbh, it’s usually done for you! xx

  • WanShyGirl

    Baby girl with the words. You truly can write. The 20’s are pretty exciting and scary. Heck, I didn’t even know how I’ll get my shii together but I’m doing just fine.
    It’s funny how you already highlighted the next phases of your life (Law school – NYSC – Job).
    It would be amazing if you explore your other creative side as well.
    Excited to see what the future holds for you.
    All the best in your exams and have a fab weekend!
    P.s – The letter board is quite pricey but yeah Issa Investment. I just might get myself one or the lightbox.

    • Amaka

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post! I’m also happy you seem to be doing fine haha, I don’t think anyone really ever gets their ish together … they just look like they do! I’ve highlighted the phases but I’m not sure the order they’ll go in – or if they’ll all happen – we just have to buckle up for the ride. I do want to explore my creative side! The thing is that since I’ve only started exploring it recently, I find it hard to imagine where it would fit in the grand scheme of things. Thanks Ebun! Yes it’s pricey, but thank God I got it on a sale

  • PamelaSams

    I’ve been following you faithfully on IG 😁 but I haven’t read your blog in a long time. Now, I’m glad I took time to read this 😊

    Happy Birthday to you!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽˆ
    I pray you have a fulfilling and beautiful year/20’s.

    The 20’s are quite interesting and it can be pretty demanding a lotta times. There are things I wish I did better (I’m over 25) but I’ve learnt my lessons and I’m glad I’m progressing beautifully at my own pace.
    I’d say stay faithful to your lane/path and be willing to explore. There’s so much we miss out on when we let fear get a grip on us.

    Have a lovely day/weekend.
    ❀

    • Amaka

      Glad you decided to come through! Thank you for the well wishes – I’ll definitely let my heart be open to exploration and try to get rid of unnecessary fear – thank you!

  • Debbie

    Happy birthday ,welcome to another decade of your life and joining the team I just turned twenty club – President Me πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜€
    Hope you had a blast

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