Life experiences are unique to every individual. Though we may go through similar life experiences, different factors come into play, affecting the outcome for us as people.
Though sometimes I find myself moping and suddenly filled with a feeling of hopelessness, there are sometimes when I get excited. Why? I get excited at the thought of what is to come. No doubt, life is no walk in the park, but still, there are events and people who just make things a whole lot better. Some of these experiences are pretty mundane, but due to my Nigerian nationality, the experience is amplified!
In this post, I bring you 10 life experiences I can’t wait to have. Most will probably occur in the next 2 -7 years, and boy am I excited.
Solo Market Journey
Okay, don’t laugh. I mean, sure, I’ve gone to the local market near my house by myself, but it’s been for clothes, hair, makeup fabrics and to see my tailor a good 97% of the time. The other 3% was when I once felt “led” to make Banga soup and bought all the ingredients, or when my mum asked me to buy goat meat (absolutely petrifying). It will be the biggest step ever for me to go to a big market to get foodstuff, like, food-for-a-month kind of foodstuff, or even just meat and vegetables.
I keep getting scared I’ll be cheated and jeered at behind my back. Well, that day is coming! I can’t avoid it forever. I was so used to the air-conditioned, supermarket life… I miss it TBH, but Shoprite prices can be shady.
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Learning to Drive
I attempted this in September/October 2017 and failed miserably. It was horrible, and it was terrifying! Yeah, I got the car moving, I know what a clutch, brake, and accelerator are…I know you have to ‘clutch down’ before attempting to accelerate..yet, I don’t think I’m ready for any road, let alone a Nigerian road, for a long time. Have you seen what happens to people whose cars break down at a traffic light? I don’t need my whole generation cursed.
Speaking in Tongues
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Yeah, I’m a bit tongue-tied. I don’t know what happens or why I feel so cursed, but no matter how hard I try, it just didn’t happen. The day it happens will be such a day, honestly. All I hear is stories of the experiences of others, how one moment they’re just normal, next thing they’re speaking in tongues. I’ve never had that experience, never even come close. It is something that hurt a lot, because I truly want it. I hope I figure out what’s wrong. It would also be cool to convert someone – I sound like a vampire, but you know what I mean.
Going to/Finishing law school
I feel a bit ‘meh’ writing this because law school is the natural next level after studying law in uni (not for everyone) but still, It’s a bit scary from all the stories I hear. Until then, I’m preparing myself mentally for the stress, and keeping updated via other bloggers, law school blogs and vlogs #staywoke.
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I can’t even imagine how it will feel to register for law school, to take my first steps into a campus – probably will end up in Abuja, but a teeny part of me wants to go to Lagos or even Enugu. Sha, I don’t want somewhere I’ll end up cheated due to a language barrier (isn’t that everywhere?) so I need to brush up. Imagine being called to bar, declared as fit and proper. A whole me?
THE NOTORIOUS NYSC
For non-Nigerians, NYSC is a compulsory 1-year programme where “youths” serve their country for a monthly stipend. It is kicked off by a 3-week stay in some camp with tear-inducing facilities most of the time. After law school cometh the struggle known as NYSC.
I’ve heard horror stories, seen all the corpers in their uniform going around and about Abuja. I’m excited because It’s a chance to go somewhere in Nigeria I’ve never been to. I’m low-key hoping not to end up in Abuja, but maybe my preference will change before that time comes. Right now, I want Jos because It’s cold there. I don’t want to end up in somewhere with a strong name like Jalingo. Please oh. I think this would be one of the most memorable life experiences, you can bet I’ll blog on it!
Travelling alone (within Nigeria)
I have only ever traveled with my family or in a group setting (with people I know), never by myself or with complete strangers. I can’t wait for the day this story will change.
I want to go to Lagos, Kaduna (by train) and Jos for now. The list could expand as I find other places that piqué my interest. Some Western states would be nice. TBH I want to be Yoruba by association. In fact, learning a Nigerian language would be an awesome life experience, for the benefit of my pockets.
Travelling alone (outside Nigeria)
Similar to above, I want to go through a whole visa process and all that immigration stuff. I’ve never traveled internationally alone! I want to visit London, Australia, and China. I’d also like to visit USA (just for a food eating spree and shopping then I’m out) and Canada. Japan and Korea would be awesome too!
Moving out, taking on adulting
I know it’s not really easy for one to move out in Nigeria, especially as a single female but who knows what will happen? What if I move to another country? I want to have my own space, just like Dimma Umeh.
I also wouldn’t mind a roommate as long as they’re not shady. Gosh, the ability to customize your whole interior would be so amazing (everything would be grammable). I hope it can come true in some way or the other.
Of course, moving out comes with responsibilities, and more adulting. I hope I can figure out this adult lifestyle thing too, having as little mental breakdowns as possible. It all starts with making the right choices now.
Getting Involved in a Nigerian Wedding
As a kid, I was often a little bride or flower girl. I want to take part in a Nigerian wedding as an adult, see all the brouhaha that goes on behind the scenes.
I’d like to buy asoebi, as well as be a bridesmaid, I think this will be a one-time thing though (yeah right, me that is a fabric hoarder), I hear it’s not a walk in the park). Plus, I don’t think I’ll have time/resources to be acquiring asoebi like some collector. Smart money woman o! Let’s hope I’ll be able to control myself when the time comes.
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Getting a Legit Job
This’ll be so cool. I’ve worked in KFC and at a Deli before, but I’m yet to get like an “office” job. This doesn’t mean after schooling I’d just sit around waiting for corporate work, but it would definitely be awesome getting my first ‘adult’ job.
I’ve set up things like @shopginger.ng to sustain me, while also being part of ELCI, but I’m not naturally an entrepreneur. A ‘legit job’ might not even be in an office setting, who knows where blogging might take me? Either way, it’s all in the future! Though I wish I started my blog at 14, to really see development, It excites me to see where my blog will be when I’m 25.
I’m sure someone out there thought ‘getting married’ and ‘having kids/becoming a parent’ would be part. Those life experiences though quite normal and practically expected in our society, have stories attached to them. There’s even the figuring out cooking one. I’ll talk on those life experiences in separate posts, but I hope you enjoyed this one!
What are some life experiences you can’t wait to have?